“Faux Friendship” Then and Now
In the beginning of William Deresiewicz’ article titled Faux Friendship, he states that, “friendship was a high calling, demanding extraordinary qualities of character…”. In today’s society that’s not really the case. In order to have a friendship you had to have certain qualities and be able to speak the truth even when it hurts the most. Friendships today aren’t as honest, private or intimate as they once were.
Today the term friendship is thrown around in a more nonchalant manner verses how it was perceived in earlier times. Being someone’s friend was not something that was given freely. In the Renaissance, for instance, Montaigne wrote, “for to undertake to wound and offend a man for his own good is to have a healthy love for him.” This meant that to correct or constructively criticize a friend was in good favor because the friend was looking out for his or her best interest. Today the act of criticizing a friend can result in a loss of that friendship. Montaigne also wrote, “those who venture to criticize us perform a remarkable act of friendship”. That same act, which was once a good and genuine jester, is now perceived as a displeasing act towards a friendship.
Another reason for the lack of genuine friendship in today’s society is the development of social media sites. Social media sites, such as Facebook, allow us to connect with a larger mass of people with ease. Sites like Facebook and Twitter have made it easier for people to share how they’re feeling or what’s going on in their daily lives. By posting a status or tweeting, people are able to express their feelings or inner most thoughts for all their friends to see verses calling individual people or taking time out of their busy schedule to sit down with someone and converse face to face. This leads people to think or believe that they know a person based off of information they share online. But that’s not necessarily true. Friendship in todays society has...