Some parents usually look at their teenage son or daughter and wonder where they went wrong as a parent. The child who used to listen to you now has a mind of his or her own and dares to point out that you are wrong and that he or she is right. At the teen years of your son or daughter, a parent notices a big change in his or her child in the way they behave.
The word teen is derived from the old English word ‘teona’ which means anger and grief. The teen years can be painful for both the teenager and parent. The teen years are between the ages of thirteen to nineteen years and hence understanding why and how a teenager behaves will go a long way in helping a parent forge a relationship with his or her son or daughter.
Although a teenager has not yet earned the freedom of adulthood, he or she has lost the privileges of childhood. The teenager finds everything appealing to him or her such as smoking, marrying, having sex, voting or even enlisting in the army, prohibited. He or she has to go to school whether he or she wants. All these don’ts put a strain on relationships between adults and teenagers that usually last as long as a teenager is financially dependent on his or her parents. Divorce, economic crisis and political crisis are not pretty pictures for a teenager and thus a parent who cannot handle his or her own difficulties is hardly equipped to cope with the problems erupting inside a teenage member of the family. Through this difficult time of growth, a teenager needs parents who can recognize that he or she is changing into an adult, parents who will patiently understand, rather than overreact to the attitudes and behaviors of their teen child.
I realize that most parents wonder if it is okay for a teenager to be rebellious. Rebellion refers to resistance to or rejection of authority or control. It is very okay for a teen child to rebel. Parents should think for a moment what would happen if their teen children never resisted or rejected your control....